4/6/2000
Online Dating
The media would have us believe the Internet is the worst place
to meet normal people. It's full of perverts and psychos trying
to arrange a rendezvous with little children. Have you polled
everyone walking down the street in a big city lately? I think
you'll find the same cross section of humanity.
Some say you can only find a Christian spouse in a church. Well,
I'm 49, still single, spent most of my life involved in churches
both large and small and can honestly state the women I've met
there aren't a whole lot different from the same cross section
of humanity I referred to above. I will admit most, by being in
church are trying to dump the "ways of the world". But
personalities persist, regardless of your theological views.
In a local "Christian" dating service, I met one girl
whose favorite hobby was dancing the Lombada. Since I don't dance,
I can't spell it either. She also endorsed abortion rather flamboyantly.
I wonder why?
Another girl from the same service presented a very devout
charismatic facade while sleeping with another guy and dating
me.
But in a NON-Christian, online service I met several ladies who
did stand up for and live the same value system that I adhere
to. Like a Lotus blossom in a pool of stagnant water, truly righteous
people do tend to stand out rather starkly. Most church singles
pastors advise us
to avoid evangelistic dating. This is good advice for new Christians,
or spineless frauds. But I have a different story to tell. In
another non-Christian service I met a private secretary to the
president of one of the 5 largest motion picture studios in Hollywood.
Meeting at a trendy restaurant in Burbank for lunch, I bowed my
head and quietly said grace when the food arrived. She never went
out with me again. Light and darkness can't survive in the same
room. Real Christians scare off unbelievers. If anyone thinks
they desire a non-Christian spouse, I question their own belief.
Non-believers have always out run me as soon as they know where
I stand.
But I'm still not married, you point out. True. But I'm not divorced
either. Nor am I unequally yoked to an expensive ox.
The online services allow pictures, and biographies to be posted
by the person listed. Yes, liars exist. But I find most liars
will do it to my face just as easily as they do on the Internet.
Only FOX TV marries people on the first date. And we all know
how that turned out.
I wish I had a good news ending for this article. I don't. Just
the summary of my evidence that the Internet is no worse than
any other technique. I don't know if he has it still posted, but
the Christian comedian Mark Lowry, had a list of all the ways
used by Biblical patriarchs to find their spouses. Wow! Talk about
bizarre! He was at http://www.marklowry.com
LateNiteLeroy
Webmaster of http://www.commutefaster.com
http://www.888webtoday.com